3 habits for a positive everyday life
A positive everyday life begins in our heads. Today I'm introducing you to three habits that you can use to strengthen your mindset and achieve real change.
How thoughts shape our lives
Anything we do in the same way over a long period of time becomes a habit. In addition to habits that affect our behavior (such as exercising, smoking, checking our smartphone, going to bed at a certain time, meditating, being creative...), our brain also has its habits. We “get used” to certain thoughts and develop reactions, attitudes and world views from them. Of course, our behavior and our thoughts influence each other: what we think affects what we do. And what we do influences our thoughts.
Establishing a new habit initially puts many people off: it takes time, perseverance and physical and mental investment. It's more comfortable to let everything be as it was before... But in the long term, everyday habits can change our lives. What we think every day plays one of the biggest roles. It influences our view of the world, of our fellow human beings and of our lives. This is why it is so important to look not only at what we do every day, but also at what we think every day. Positive and constructive mindset habits can help us develop a more positive everyday life with more calm and friends.
I have already written about all of the habits mentioned below in one way or another on this blog. But because I find them SO central and relevant, I will repeat them until everyone has implemented them. After all, repetition is an important component in the learning process ;-)
Three important mindset habits
1. Stop playing the victim
Stop complaining. Blaming others for your problems or for anything that happens in your life. At the end of the day, no one's life is perfect. We all came into the world with a wide variety of conditions and characteristics, and have experienced a wide variety of things and experiences. It is up to us what we do with the life we have been given. And this also includes problems, deficits and gaps.
It's up to you to use your gifts, strengths - and the challenges in your life - to create something valuable. Something that will brighten your life and maybe even make a difference in the world.
It's also up to you to be nice. To yourself and to others. Even if bad things happened to you.
You have to take responsibility for yourself and for your life because YOU are in control of your life. Of course certain people have an influence on your life. However, it is ultimately up to you to change your life. And as much as you want it.
Life is always for you
Some people live with beliefs like “I'm poor” or “I'm not smart enough” or “Life is never kind to me” or “I was just born this way,” etc. These people are constantly complaining, seeing themselves as victims of circumstances and blame others for their own problems.
At the end of the day, however, no one will be able to change your life so that you become happy. So you can either do nothing, just let your life pass you by and complain. Or you take your life into your own hands, have experiences, learn, develop and take responsibility for your decisions. This is the only way you can create the life you want to create.
Even if the last few paragraphs seemed more like a motivational speech than a recommendation for a habit you can establish, keep reminding yourself of these things. Watch yourself as you go through your life. Do you take responsibility or do you see yourself as the victim? Are you actively doing something to change your life in the areas that you are dissatisfied with? Engaging with content like this article is definitely a great start! :-)
2. Cultivate gratitude – every day
Practicing and cultivating gratitude has probably been one of the biggest changes in my life. That's why I never tire of talking about gratitude. If each of us actively practiced gratitude, this world would be a better place. I am convinced of that. Being grateful is like a key to happiness - because if you wake up grateful and appreciate the things you have, then you can't avoid being happy.
Unfortunately, we often forget to be grateful in everyday life. Especially for the little things. You then think to yourself, “Yeah, I’m grateful. BUT I still want to have this and achieve this and that too could be even better…”. We focus on our desires and think about scarcity. The person who speaks primarily from within us is our ego. Because the ego is never satisfied and always finds something that can still be improved. This is why we should take a little time every day (even if it's just 30 seconds!) to be grateful.
A gratitude journal can work wonders. Every day write down 1-3 things you are grateful for. If you try to find something new every day, over time you will become more and more attentive to the little things. The focus is realigned. And the more you write down what you're grateful for, the more you'll find what else you can be grateful for.
What you focus on grows. So if you focus on gratitude (instead of, for example, unfulfilled desires), then gratitude will grow. And gratitude brings abundance and positivity into your life.
3. Don't always take your life so seriously
Of course, life somewhere is a serious matter. Nevertheless, we often take it – and ourselves – too seriously. We tend to over-think and over-analyze. We worry too much. We are almost constantly stressed. We believe that if we don't do something "right", make wrong decisions or take too much time, the world will end. We get so caught up in the little things of everyday life that we forget that in the end these things aren't that important.
At the end of the day, we all just want to be happy, right? Love is certainly important for this. But also fun. And you can have fun if you don't take things too seriously. If you allow yourself to be childish even in adulthood. When you do things that fulfill you and spend time with people who make you laugh.
Let go, be carefree. This is easier for some people than others. But you can also learn this and train it like a muscle. Find things that bring you fun. Dance to your favorite song, visit an amusement park, play a board game with your favorite people. Observe how children behave or remember what you enjoyed doing as a child. Fun can be found in the smallest moments.
Try more often to simply enjoy your time on this planet. Don't constantly think about what other people might think of you or what society expects of you. Sing, dance, do all the things you enjoy. Don't take yourself and your life too seriously.
Because here’s to having fun and being happy; After all, that’s what matters in life, right? :-)
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