Be careful parents - the art, the time fully sought. An encouragement for mothers

The baby is here – joy and change!

The long-awaited day has finally arrived. You gave birth to your baby in a heroic act, and now you are together in your personal, individual family constellation. Everything is changing. If there are already siblings, they are experiencing an intense realignment and a shift in roles among themselves and in their relationship with their parents. The parents themselves, whether alone or with a partner, feel a jolt and jolt in their relationship, as the little newcomer slides into its designated place.

The changes in your daily life require your full attention: On the one hand, your body is undergoing a powerful, wonderful, and often exhausting process of recovery and rediscovery in new and familiar tasks. You need plenty of rest and as little stress as possible to give your body and soul the space to become familiar with everything that's happening within you: breastfeeding, possible healing processes, a new body awareness, physical contact with your child.

The nights are exhausting, you lack sleep. Perhaps you also find it difficult to accept the situation and let yourself fall into it as it was given to you... and yet, there is also so much joy and happiness about the little new arrival. All in all, you are slowly realizing that you will never be the same as before; something new has been born within you, too.

Your external world may be hectic, fast-paced, loud, and exhausting. So much is in motion, and the waves seem to be crashing high, but if you look deeper within yourself and leave the superficial layers, you can perceive something else: Stop for a moment every now and then and take a deep breath. Become aware of the moment you are in. Arrive exactly where you are. Notice what is happening within you and around you.

Going deeper – the art of mindfulness

How does your body feel? Where does it hurt? Do you have back pain from sitting awkwardly while breastfeeding? Are you tired and exhausted? Do you feel the energy of your hormones and feel like you could tear down trees?

How are your thoughts? Do they keep circling around the same thing? Where do you keep coming back to? Are you worried or stressed?

Also consider your surroundings: How are the other members of your family doing? How do your children seem to be feeling? What kind of aura does your partner exude? What movement do you notice within them, what might be bothering them? Do you sense a change in the presence of your loved ones?

Remember, this isn't about you, as a mother/partner, having to take responsibility for what's happening around you. Rather, you're allowed to feel the now, your current moment of experience with all its facets and constantly changing moods.

With the birth of a new human being, everything is in constant flux. Just as quickly as the baby gains weight, wakes up and falls asleep, is content, or cries, just as quickly do our emotions and feelings within us adults.

In everyday life, we are often unaware of how much is actually going on at deeper levels. Everything we do to keep everyday life running is usually not "real life," what's going on in the background and what it's all about. Our genuine, deep feelings are masked by our busy actions and are often not even conscious.How many habits and approaches have we developed to hide what deeply moves us?

Expressing true life directly, closely, and with presence is difficult for us in today's fast-paced, unconscious world. We are obsessed with keeping things moving.

Stand still

When a baby is born, it stands still for a moment. Those who are attentive in this moment and begin to understand can feel the deeper layer of perception that says: Yes, the world want are standing still right now. Something special has happened: A new living being has come into this world, one that has never existed before. It is changing the world around it emphatically and irrevocably and wants to remind us that a new beginning is possible every day.

A new life needs that moment when everything stands still, so that the world can move on in a new direction from there; your world as a family, your world.

How is it possible to capture that moment when you can take a deep breath and arrive? What good is that even? Maybe you have plans and ambitions, you're doing well, and you know all sorts of things to do with your time. Even the baby seems to be changing by the minute and is developing rapidly—why stand still?

This is the miracle of life: Everything is constantly in flux, yet beneath it lies the great ocean of stillness. This place is the place of encounter, the place of authenticity, of contemplation, the source of strength for every creative act and every feeling of being alive.

With the birth of your child, you are confronted with life in the most intense way possible. You have become a mother, for the first time or once again; you yourself have brought life into being. Now the wonderful reciprocal relationship that we humans have with one another becomes apparent: We show each other who we are.

You will show your child this world. And your child will show you the place of silence.

What the baby teaches us

If possible, set aside a few hours. Make sure you and your child are undisturbed, turn off all devices, and minimize the noise around you as much as possible.

Connect with your child physically and emotionally. Their body speaks, and they communicate with you incessantly. Can you see how vividly their eyes gaze at the world? How knowing? Like a deep ocean, they seem to illuminate you, asking if you can remember. Your child is connected to everything within and around them; everything is a mutually influencing process:

Your reactions to their presence, their surroundings, the stimuli and sounds, their digestion, their feeding, their sleep and wake phases. There is no separation between your baby and their environment.

Connecting with your baby can remind you that you are the same. You are connected to everything within and around you. Your encounter is a place of stillness and pure vitality, of mutual recognition.

A moment with your baby can teach you more than the last ten years of personal development. When you fully immerse yourself in your moment together and take your child's perspective, you can perceive how much is happening in the room: the whirring of the refrigerator, the baby's fluid movements, both of your breathing, the gurgling of your stomachs, your glances and touches, the heartbeat.Everything is full of life, everything is full of charm. You become alive to the smallest interactions between you and realize how incredibly rich each moment is.

You are your child's teacher, and if you allow it, they will be your master. Gift both of you with this wonderful perspective and experience how deeply it can enrich you as people and in your relationship.

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AUTHOR: SARAH ACKER