40 inspiring questions for deep conversations - creating fulfilling connections

Regardless of whether you just met or have been friends for years: sometimes you want to go deeper. These 40 questions will help you reflect, get to know each other (even better) and share moments together.

Exchanging ideas about music, series, politics, hobbies or everyday work can be fun. Together with our friends, relatives or other acquaintances, we get upset, make jokes and communicate. However, we feel much more connected to our counterparts when we exchange ideas about the things that touch our hearts. The things we haven't told a thousand times before. The things that we ourselves often think about but never say out loud. The things we may have never thought about.

We get to know ourselves by talking to other people. This cannot be avoided at all. Because the way we conduct conversations, what questions we ask and how we react to the other person says a lot about ourselves. But we hardly notice this in everyday life; after all, we can't concentrate on everything at the same time. Observing yourself from a bird's eye view while having a conversation with a friend or a stranger can be quite revealing.

The topic of the conversation itself can be just as informative. Because when we are seriously asked what we would actually do in situation x, how we would decide between options y and z or what we really think about this and that, our heads start to rattle. In a good way. Our brain becomes even more active when we interact with others. The input of those involved in the conversation can create new connections between neurons or strengthen existing neuron networks. And that can never hurt!

40 inspiring questions for deep conversations

If you want to get to know the person you are talking to better, want to breathe new life into repetitive conversations with your loved ones or want to find out more about yourself, then the following 40 questions can help.

Deepen, reflect, experience; Laughing, crying, marveling, pondering – here are 40 questions for conversations that connect.

Warning: it can get emotional! 

Stage 1 – Let’s take it easy

1. When was the last time you did something for the first time?
2. Would you like to be famous? In which way?
3. Are you an emotional or a mental person?
4. Would you rather be extremely intelligent or would you rather be extremely good with people?
5. In what situation in your life have you been really lucky?
6. What does friendship mean to you?
7. What would you like to spend more time on next year?
8. What would you like to spend less time on next year?
9. Which stranger/chance encounter left a lasting impression on you (in a positive or negative sense)?
10. What was the nicest compliment you've ever received?

Stage 2 – It gets deeper

1. How are you really?
2. Are you looking for your dream job or are you creating it?
3. What three things do you like about your counterpart? (Appearance and/or character)
4. What or who makes you shine?
5. How would you describe your relationship with your mother?
6. What in your life are you most grateful for?
7. Which three things give you the most energy?
8. What three things drain your energy?
9. Which person has particularly influenced you in the last year?
10. What moment of your life would you like to relive?

Level 3 – Be honest and learn new things

1. What achievement in your life are you most proud of?
2. What three things do you and your counterpart have in common?
3. When was the last time you cried in front of another person? When was the last time you cried alone?
4. Complete the sentence: “I wish I had someone to share ___ with / talk to about ___.”
5. Is there an experience that changed your life forever?
6. If you could know one truth about yourself, your life, your future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
7. What story from your childhood or youth will you often tell your children/godchildren/grandchildren?
8. What would surprise you about me?
9. What was the most important decision you've ever made?
10. What would you do if you knew you wouldn't fail?

Level 4 – For those who want to dig really deep

1. What is your biggest insecurity?
2. If you knew that you would die suddenly in a year, would you want to change anything about your current life? How come?
3. Are you healed or just distracted?
4. What role does love play in your life?
5. What role does fear play in your life?
6. If there was a solution to your worries and fears – what would it look like?
7. What three pieces of wisdom would you want to pass on to others if it were the only thing left of you after your death?
8. What is your favorite memory?
9. What is your worst memory?
10. Share one of your problems/challenges with your counterpart and ask him:her how he:she would deal with it.

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